A big challenge our ego presents us with is its ability to second guess our decisions. We want to do something, and then someone else has their way of doing it, or the voice in our head says otherwise. And then we tend to listen to that voice, or that somebody.
Inevitably, this causes more harm than good. While we think we’re appeasing other people’s wishes, we're actually undermining our own personal power while giving too much power to our egos.
At the end of the day, if you know what you’re doing, and if you know what you want versus what your ego wants, then you won’t be bound by internal conflict.
There’s a difference between wanting to do something because the silent part deep inside of you wants it, compared to the more superficial, capricious and nagging voice in your head that always needs to get the last word.
Can you tell the difference? Sometimes it can be hard to know which is which. That’s because you’re not used to looking.
It takes practice and constant inward attention to discern the difference between what your deep, true self wants versus what your personal, ego self wants.
A good way to spot the difference is to notice which seems to arise from a genuine place of love and which seems to come from fear.
The egoic voice always comes from fear - fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of destruction of itself.
What a tragedy it would be to live a life according to our egos. And yet, most of us live this tragedy.
We spend our waking hours at the mercy of this voice. It’s no wonder we’re unfulfilled. It’s no wonder we can’t seem to get enough out of life.
Learn to watch the inner battle between yourself without getting involved. You don’t have an obligation to participate in the internal struggle. You’re allowed to simply notice it without doing anything about it.
When you do that, you act from a place of personal power rather than from a place of ego.
By simply noticing rather than participating, you reclaim your life.
Live with substance!