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Have You Ever Wondered Why?

Have you ever wondered why we need the outside world to match our personal preferences in order to feel good?

Have you ever questioned if there's a better way to live?

Currently in my life, I'm asking those questions, which I explore in this blog.

I recently wrote about the one thing we take most for granted, and I'd like to expand on that post and put it in simpler terms.

If we were to look at our view of life in two equations, it would look something like this this:

If outside world = preferences, we feel good.

If outside world ≠ preferences, we cannot feel good.

My question is, why must this be so?

Why does it matter, you ask?

It matters because the outside world is the result of 13.8 billion years of creation unfolding. What gives you and I the right to decide how things should and shouldn't be? Furthermore, what gives us even a chance to win this constant battle? We're a fraction of a fraction of a blip on the colossal radar of life.

It's just utter stupidity to think we can control what happens. We really only have control over .00001% of our immediate world, yet we focus on the whole universe and become unhappy when things don't go our way.

Most people take this for granted their whole lives, and never even question it. It might as well be as true as gravity.

Some common objections to this might be:

"Well of course it's true! How else would I be happy, if I don't get what I want?"

"Why wouldn't that be true? Of course I'm unhappy if the world is mean to me!"

"How do you expect me to feel good if things around me are not going well? Is that a joke?!"

And on and on and on.

But to prove that it's not the outside world that matters, but rather our inner relationship to the world, let's take an example as simple as the weather.

It's your big wedding day, and it's an outdoor wedding. It's been sunny for weeks, so you're not even thinking about the forecast of rain. All of the sudden, out of nowhere, it starts pouring. You become enraged. Enraged at Mother Nature.

But a few blocks over, a family is tending to their local farm. It hasn't rained in weeks. The crops are struggling. Out of nowhere, it rains. Rejoice!