Happy - oh what a word.
Nonstop bombardment of how to be happy, why to be happy, what to be happy about.
Happy happy happy. Happy!!!!!!!!
Okay, I get it. I've used it quite a bit.
And I've learned that it can rub people the wrong way. The last thing I want to do is create an anti-happiness movement, so I'd like to take this opportunity to clarify what exactly I mean when I say happy. Or fulfilled. Both are interchangeable in the context of this blog. But first...
Being happy does not mean that:
You don't, or shouldn't feel sadness, anger, grief, or sorrow
You need to feel guilty if you're not happy
You're always smiling
You're always laughing
You always appear to be in a jolly good mood
You're always motivated
You always feel purpose
You're always generous to others
You're always serving others
You radiate light 24/7
No, no, and no. If you're thinking about happiness this way while reading my blog, you're mistaken. Of course, all of these feel good, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with feeling anything that's genuine.
But lots of genuine feelings don't feel good, and it's still important to experience those. In the context of my blog and the way I use the word happy, you can absolutely be happy on the inside 100% of the time while experiencing outer emotions of sadness, anger, or discomfort in any way.
Happiness doesn't always equal smiles.
What I do mean by happiness, or fulfillment, is the following:
A deep sense of inner peace
Inner calm amidst any outer storm
Full acceptance of any and all emotions
Living in the present
Not resisting what is
Complete acceptance and harmony with reality
Full participation with the moments unfolding in front of you
A separation between you, the one who feels and thinks, and your feelings and thoughts themselves
A spiritual, not logical or emotional, knowing that deep down, you'll always be okay
These, to me, equal true inner happiness. True fulfillment within.