How often do you find yourself stressing about upcoming commitments, events that sometimes aren't until a few weeks, months, or even years away? I've been there a lot, but luckily I'm here to tell you an effective strategy to lessen the anguish, and cultivate a wiser relationship with your pain. The strategy goes as follows: Whenever I find myself dreading something in the future, I remind myself that that event is not happening now, and that when it happens, I'll deal with i
Have you ever found yourself in a perpetual state of anxiously awaiting the next moment? You know, when you're in a rush, and you can't bear to be where you are, because you need to be at the next step? I found myself there most of this evening. Luckily, the circumstances were not serious, but rather, just inconvenient. On the way to enjoy the sun at a nearby park, our car started sputtering. The check engine light came on, strange noises emerged, and a loss of power ensued.
The essence of stress is that it comes from resistance to what is. Whether that be something unfolding in the outside world, or something taking place within us, stress is our resistance to that something. Anytime I get stressed, I think back to this truth, which I wrote about in depth a couple years ago. You can read that post here. It's so common for us to say that something stresses us out. Work is stressful. Paying bills is stressful. Raising a family is stressful (or so
Home can be many things to people. For some, it's a house. For other's, it's another person. Of course, we all know that home, at its core, is a feeling within. But what does that mean, and why do we feel at home sometimes, and far away from home other times? When someone says home is where the heart is, what are they saying? To start, like all subjects in this blog, we live in two worlds: the outside world, and the inner world. What most people neglect is that all human expe
We're all doing the same thing. It just happens to look vastly different, depending on who we are. Regardless of how it looks on the outside - whether it appears good, evil, normal, or bizarre - we're all operating under the same inner circumstances, attempting to get our inner energy to flow freely. And we do this by trying to change the outside world according to our inner blockages. The reason we all go about it differently is because our blockages are all different. What
We live in two worlds. There's the outside world we're all familiar with. That's the one we spend our lives trying to change, mold, and influence. And then there's our inner world. This world often gets neglected. Yet, ironically, it's the one we actually care about. We don't actually care about what happens in the outside world. You don't actually care where you live, what job you have, or who you marry. You don't. As ridiculous as that might sound, you don't care about that
We can learn a lot from nature. After all, we are part of it. And yet the general consensus seems to be that we are somehow separate. This is wrong, and perhaps it’s why we face so many challenges as a species. Our collective ignorance about the very nature of being human fuels widespread destruction of our environment. This isn’t a mystery, though. If a tree tried to be something it wasn’t, nature simply wouldn’t allow it. Humans across the globe are forgetting their true na
When tensions rise, emotions boil, and riots emerge, one thing is for certain: The ego is at play. Whether you're observing the chaos from a distance, or you're one of the very instigators, you can be sure that your ego is feeding on it. Your job is to watch this take place within you, and within others. By watching the ego rather than acting on it, you remain composed while the lower part of you doesn't. And that's the highest thing you can do. While your neurotic mind has a
Dread is a difficult thing to experience. It's like we know what's coming, so we get all worked up over it before it happens. If you think about it, it's pretty silly to dread things, yet we do it anyway. First of all, dread takes us out of the present moment, and into a future where we think we know what's going to happen. It assumes we're able to tell the future. It also creates suffering about something that hasn't, and might not ever happen. In other words, it clouds what
We've all been there. At some point in our lives, the time comes for us to make a trek over to our beloved post office, where we're handed the golden opportunity to sort out a matter with our mail. If you had an experience anything like the one I had today, you quickly realize that going to a US post office is not too dissimilar to getting a root canal, or food poisoning for that matter. The rude, incompetent employees, the disorganization and lack of empathy for the patrons'